It Always Happens When You're Not Looking
When one is single, and lonely, and recently out of a long-term relationship, friends (mostly coupled-up friends) feed you platitudes. My ultimate favorite: "It Always Happens When You're Not Looking." There's nothing more annoying than hearing that from your friends after another date gone awry.
Well, unfortunately, given my (and Dolly's) current situation, I'm starting to think they're right.
Sort-of.
Yes, it's true, I've wanted to take a brief hiatus from dating. And now I've met this awesome guy. And yes, Dolly wasn't going out to the party with me to meet anyone. She's been on a bit of a hiatus as well. So, yes, we weren't looking.
However, we were doing everything in our power to meet the right people. Whether it's a book club, a dating website, or a party, we were out there so that we could be in the right place at the right time. And, as Dolly and I were commenting this morning, it's easy to hang back and chat with the people you know, yet we both make an effort to always talk to new people--male, female, it doesn't matter. So while we "weren't looking," we were still "out there."
Well, unfortunately, given my (and Dolly's) current situation, I'm starting to think they're right.
Sort-of.
Yes, it's true, I've wanted to take a brief hiatus from dating. And now I've met this awesome guy. And yes, Dolly wasn't going out to the party with me to meet anyone. She's been on a bit of a hiatus as well. So, yes, we weren't looking.
However, we were doing everything in our power to meet the right people. Whether it's a book club, a dating website, or a party, we were out there so that we could be in the right place at the right time. And, as Dolly and I were commenting this morning, it's easy to hang back and chat with the people you know, yet we both make an effort to always talk to new people--male, female, it doesn't matter. So while we "weren't looking," we were still "out there."
posted by Pretty Polly at 10:32 AM
9 Comments:
It's always fun to meet new people. It is hard to do that when you have an agenda. Glad you seem to be enjoying yourself now.
is THAT what i'm doing wrong?
I'm tired of the stale phrase also -- and I'm coupled up! I was out there, too when I was looking, so I suppose I can't use that line, eh? :)
It's so true. As long as a person isn't holed up in their bedroom then there is always the possibility of meeting someone:)
I agree, but I don't usually refer to my breaks as hiatuses. I usually refer to them as dating sabbaticals. It implies i'm working on something productive in the meantime.
..."dating sabbaticals".
I have to adopt that phrase. Clever!
It's great to have a wingman/woman.
As someone who has seen you girls in social action, I totally get what you mean. You girls have no fear when approaching people, and I think that's a great asset to have.
Why can't I help but imagine those first few paragraphs in Sarah Jessica Parker's voice?
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